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Steady in the Middle Christian blog post about how to trust God in uncertainty, featuring a winding road and the quote 'What You Focus On Is What You Move Toward.

Steady in the Middle: What You Focus On Is What You Move Toward

Hello Friend!

Lately, I’ve been learning how to trust God in uncertainty, something that hasn’t come naturally to me.

There are things you learn early in life that seem simple at the time, until years later you realize just how deeply true they really are.

For me, that realization came through something as simple as a driving lesson.

I was fifteen, learning to drive so I could get my license. I was in my dad’s truck, gripping the wheel a little too tightly, trying to stay in my lane. I remember approaching a stretch of road with concrete dividers that felt massive in the moment, and I was really fixated on not hitting them.

I could feel the tension rising in my body, and as I kept glancing toward the dividers.

That’s when my dad said something that has stayed with me:

“If you keep focusing on the dividers,
you’re going to hit them.
What you focus on is what you move toward.”

Then he told me to shift my eyes.

It wasn't about ignoring where I was in that moment, rather to focus on where I actually wanted the truck to go.

To stay in the lines, I had to stop staring at what I was afraid of hitting, and aim for my destination.

At the time, it was just a driving correction.

Now, I see it as something much deeper.


The Direction of Your Focus
Shapes the Direction of Your Life

Over the years, I’ve come back to that moment more times than I can count.

Because it’s true, not just behind the wheel, but in the heart.

What we focus on is what we move toward.

Scripture says it this way:

“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable… if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” (Philippians 4:8)

I used to read that scripture as being a suggestion for better thinking.

Now I’m realizing it’s actually an invitation into a different way of living, because I can see it so clearly in my own life.

The more I dwell on frustrations and flaws, the more discontent and reactive I become. My heart follows the direction of my focus! Every. Single. Time.

However, when I intentionally shift my focus toward where God is leading me; toward growth and who He is forming me to be, I don’t stay stuck.

I grow.


When Fear Becomes the Lens

I’m going to be really honest here.

I am realizing that much of my life has been led by fear, even when I didn’t recognize it as that.

Fear of what could go wrong.
Fear of getting it wrong.
Fear of outcomes beyond my control.

This is where I’m learning how to trust God in the uncertainty, instead of letting fear lead the way.

And when fear becomes the lens, it doesn’t just affect what you see—it affects how you respond.

I’ve seen how this has shaped the way I respond to the people I love the most.

Not always with patience.
Not always with compassion.
Not always with tenderness.

And that realization is humbling.

There are moments where I feel the weight of that. Moments where I feel exposed, and even ashamed of how I’ve handled situations in the past.

However, what I am experiencing, at the same time, is something I didn’t expect: I feel loved and protected by my Heavenly Father.


Under the Shadow of His Wings

Psalm 57 has been meeting me right here.

David wrote this psalm while hiding in a cave, fleeing from Saul. He was under pressure, uncertain, and not safe in the natural. Yet, this is how he begins:

“Be merciful to me, O God, be merciful to me,
for in You my soul takes refuge;
in the shadow of Your wings I will take refuge,
till the storms of destruction pass by.” (Psalm 57:1)

He doesn’t pretend everything is okay.

But he does choose where to place himself.

Under God’s covering.
Close to His heart.
Held, even in the middle of uncertainty.

That language—the shadow of His wings—has felt incredibly personal in this season.

Because while God is gently correcting me, He is also holding me. I don’t feel cast out and I don’t feel rejected.

I feel loved, protected, and invited into something new.

Even when I’m aware of where I have been wrong.


Steadiness Doesn’t Come From Circumstances

One verse in this psalm has settled deeply into my heart:

“My heart is steadfast, O God, my heart is steadfast…” (Psalm 57:7)

David says this before anything has changed.

Before deliverance.
Before safety.
Before resolution.

His steadiness wasn’t coming from his circumstances.

It was coming from his focus.

He had fixed his eyes on God.

This is what I’m learning in real time: Steadiness comes from where your focus is placed.

This is what it’s looks like for me as I begin learning how to trust God in the uncertainty, not when things feel stable, but when they don’t.

It doesn't come from having everything under control or knowing how things will turn out.

It comes from anchoring your heart in the One who never changes.


Worship Re-centers the Heart

David doesn’t just trust. He worships.

“I will sing and make melody… I will give thanks to You, O Lord…” (Psalm 57:7–9)

And he does this before the breakthrough.

That has been so convicting to me, in the best way.

Because I’ve often wanted peace after things settle.
Peace after outcomes are clear.
Peace after I feel safe again.

But Psalm 57 shows us a different way.

Worship is not just something you choose instead of focusing on outcomes.

Worship is what re-centers your focus
back onto God Himself.

This isn’t about behavior modification;
thinking better so you feel better.

It’s about turning your gaze back to the Lord
until your heart steadies again.

That’s the shift from Fear to Trust.


A New Way Forward

There’s a verse that keeps rising up in me as I walk this out:

“Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.” (Isaiah 43:19)

This scripture is what I’m holding onto.

Not that I’ve gotten it all right.
Not that everything is resolved.

But that God is not finished with me yet.

He is patient enough to sit with me in the places I didn’t even realize were shaped by fear.

And He's loving enough to teach me a new way.

A way marked by trust.
A way marked by surrender.
A way marked by worship in the middle, not just at the end.


A Gentle Invitation for You

If you feel the weight of this truth, in your own heart, I want to invite you into something simple.

Pause for a moment and ask yourself:

Where has my focus been landing lately?

Because learning how to trust God in uncertainty often begins with simply noticing where your attention has been.

Not to punish yourself, but to notice.

And then, bringing that focus honestly before the Lord through confession.

Surrendering the fear, the tension, the need to control;
and letting Him meet you there.

You don’t need everything around you to feel stable, to have a steady heart.

Because your refuge is not your situation.

Your refuge is God Himself.

As you turn your gaze back to Him, again and again… you may find that your heart steadies, even before anything else changes.

That's our God.
And He is good... all the time.
All the time... He is good.

 

With love,

Satin Pelfrey

1 Comment

  1. Uncle Bud on June 4, 2026 at 6:30 AM

    I sure can relate to this one…well done Satin.

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Satin is a writer and podcast co-host sharing Spirit-led encouragement for everyday life.

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