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September 10, 2014|Satin Pelfrey

While reading blank" rel="noopener">Ann Voskamp’s post it made me think of my husbands words most recently when I asked him how he _really feels about me quitting my full-time job to pursue our business full-time.

“I feel good about it! I finally get my wife back!” Those words spoke two things to me:

My happiness is reflected in the smile upon my face
My husbands happiness is directly affected by own happiness

On my Journey to Rest I shared of my struggle to relinquish control, to ask for help and ultimately to trust God to be my providerin all things. Now, as my husband and I have made this life changing decision, I am pursuing a life of more purposeful, less distracted living.

Reading blank" rel="noopener">_Hands Free Mama is really opening my eyes to just how much the happiness of my husband, stepson, our family and friends are all directly affected by my own happiness or the lack their of! As I mentioned before, I am truly blessed, and my heart has never lost sight of that. However, my life choices haven’t lent to reflecting the fruit of my gratitude because I haven’t allowed myself enough time for rest, nor have I been living a balanced life.

“In one simple, beautiful gesture, my daughter cemented

my newfound pursuit to live Hands Free.

I realized with clarity that this–this pausing,

when the whole world keeps on going-is living.“

{Rachel Macy Stafford}

Friends, it is our choice! We can choose to keep saying yes to the people and things that don’t matter, while saying no to those we love the most, or we can embrace a Hands Free, life that yields abundant joy, treasured memories and tremendous peace and health!

1 Corinthians 16:14 says “Let all you do be done in love,”

How can we fully love, if we are not fully present?

For some of us, technology is our weakness; email, Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest. While for others of us, it’s our jobs or work. I know for me, it’s been both! I’ve spent the past two and a half years, busting my bottom at a full-time job while trying to build a business with my husband that will sustain our family. I don’t consider it a bad thing by any means, but I have had to make sacrifices on this journey. I’ve sacrificed personal time, fitness and health. I’ve sacrificed family time and time with my husband.

While sacrifice is necessary to achieve any goal we set, there has to be balance and that is something I’ve struggled with over the years.

“I need to be reminded that I could complain less,

cherish more, let go of the have-tos,

and say yes more often.

I need to be reminded that although

sunsets and goodbyes happen every day,

each one should be treated as if it’s the last.

I need to be reminded that real living happens

when I peel away the distractions and

hold my perfectly imperfect life

tenderly in my hands.

And someday, I’ll be grateful I didn’t miss my life.”

{Rachel Macy Stafford}

So how about those curves?

Are you smiling?

Is your life so busy, you find yourself frustrated, in tears or on the brink of a break-down at any given moment? That’s been me for the past year and if that’s you today, I can’t encourage you enough to embrace this truth:

The only person who can protect my time is me!

“Above all else, guard your heart,for everything you do flows from it.“

Proverbs 4:23

I hope you’ll join me on my #handsfree journey! I’d love to hear about yours as well!

ZOLD #butGod moments, ZOLD Parenthood, ZOLD Relationships

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1. Kathleenon September 10, 2014 at 12:34 PM Satin, I am visiting from Coffee for your Heart. Your post speaks to me today! You are so right about the only one in charge of my time is myself. I now put away my phone or computer when my daughter is home from school because I want to hear all about her day. Especially now that she is a senior in high school -I need to treasure these moments and her smiles because this is the last September she will come home to me after school! Reply 2. Mary on September 10, 2014 at 3:41 PM I love that you are incorporating the balance-theme in your life. It is an important lesson to learn and one i still struggle with from time to time. Reply 3. Sharyn Wilbraham on September 10, 2014 at 5:38 PM Dear Satin, How precious your heart sharing is for God and “us”/”me” on this journey. I hear your heart, and have been learning similiar things. Each day letting go and depending on God step by little step whether activities, taking on less, setting boundaries or resting etc has been a challenge but worth it. Most change has been within as i ask the Lord to keep me daily focussed on Himself. Ok this simple sentence helps: “Lord give me eyes to see,ears to hear and an understandig obedient heart”. Hope this encourages you. Blessings in abundance, Sharynxo:) Reply 4. Alecia Simerskyon September 11, 2014 at 1:06 PM Resting and giving up control is hard. Especially when we don’t know what the future is going to hold and how things are going to turn out. “Be Still and know that I am God,” are words that I’m coming to meditate on. Many blessing to you, friend on this new journey! Reply 5. Krista on September 12, 2014 at 10:28 AM I can completely and totally relate with what you are saying! When I come to a problem and there is a “not knowing” it drives me bonkers because of the control issue. I want to know what’s coming around the bend. that’s when I need to let go and allow God to take over. Sometimes it’s not as easy as it sounds huh? 🙂

Love the quote about “someday i’ll be thankful I didn’t miss my life”.

Beautiful post Satin! Reply 6. Lanette Haskinson September 19, 2014 at 11:02 AM Oh friend, I so needed to hear this!! My life has (for as long as I can remember) been so crazy busy! I oftentimes say yes to the things that I shouldn’t (even though they are good things…) and no to the things I should be saying yes too — like spending more quality time with my husband instead of making excuses and thinking it will be fine.

I need to be more intentional with my schedule, like you said “The only person who can protect my time is me!”

I need to set some goals, prioritize and make some plans.

Thanks for the encouragement!

<3 <3 <3 Reply 7. Lovely Letterson October 7, 2014 at 10:10 PM Satin you are so wise and such an encouragement! Reply

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